Potty training. Grabbing a snack. Diaper changing. Making a bottle and sippy cups. Life with multiple young kids close in age can sometimes seem like an endless cycle.
And this stage of life is something I like to refer to as being “in the trenches.” And I’m still in the trenches now, with 4 kids under 7 years old.
Challenges with Young Kids Close in Age
The Emotions
Every time we have brought home a new baby, I always tell myself that we just need time to “find our new normal.”
Honestly though, it’s hard.
REALLY hard for those first four to six months.
Trying to make sure all my other kids still feel my presence and trying to meet everyone’s needs. And then the mom guilt sets in and I always question myself, wondering if I’m doing enough.
Some days are harder than others and I find myself counting down the minutes until bedtime.
Especially those days when the toddler tantrums come in full swing.
But then bedtime arrives and I’m in bed looking at pictures of my cute kids, just wanting to go wake them up and snuggle them.
I love my littles fiercely. There are days that are better than others, but most of the time it’s good. I’ve read many parenting blogs about how this stage of life goes by so fast. And I try to remind myself of that daily and to soak up all the snuggles while I can.
The Comments
When people see me out and about with my four young kids, I always have people stop me.
The comments range from, “Wow! You must be busy!” to, “You think you’re going to have more?” to, “You’re really brave bringing everyone out.”
I know most people are being genuinely nice with their remarks. But it can be tough at times when I feel like someone is judging me for having my kids so close in age.
But this is what we had hoped for.
Honestly, my husband and I wanted to have our kids close in age. I grew up with my siblings close to me in age and I loved it. And I appreciate it even more now that we are in adulthood!
If you see a mom out with her young kids, just tell her she’s doing awesome. I guarantee it will brighten her day!
The Fog
When having multiple young kids, it is really easy to be in a fog. You are very much present in what is happening around you, but it’s difficult with so much on your mind —constantly thinking about diaper changes, snacks, getting a bottle ready, bath times, etc. And the lack of sleep doesn’t help!
Soaking It All Up
I have had many people tell me how they had multiple kids close together in age. And that they understand how hard it is at times, but they always tell me that “these are the days.”
Other parents constantly remind me how the days and nights might seem long, but the years are short.
It won’t be long until my babies won’t constantly need my help for every little thing. And when I think ahead to 10-20 years from now, I know I will look back on these days as some really special times with them.
As a fellow mom to four kids born in six years, you are doing great! Now go get yourself a cup coffee — you probably need it!
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