Going Gray
Want to embrace your gray hair? I did it! I transitioned from the warm, deep color of brunette to that of a fierce snow owl that stands out in a crowd. But I don’t stand out because I’m fierce — I stand out because I now look like a walking Q-tip!
To the younger female population, I now might be considered #ontrend or #trending, which I would say is accurate. I mean, after all I am 44 years old, so pretty young to go gray.
Generation Z may consider this a trend. But for my Generation, which is Gen X, this “trend” is more of a necessity at this point of life.
And honestly, I love my gray hair.
Initially, the gray was a little shocking. Both for me and my family.
You can imagine the unfiltered responses I received from my tween and teenager daughters. “Um, ya, I don’t like it,” and, “What did you do to your hair, Mom?!”
At least my 15-year-old son was a bit more tactful.
And by the time my husband’s response of, “It isn’t bad,” rang in my ears, it sounded like a huge compliment!
Reflections on My Gray Hair

Do I look older?
Yes. I am just in my 40s.
But do I feel older?
No, I honestly don’t.
I even feel as though I have become slightly wealthy (in very loose terms) since I don’t need a hair appointment every other month to keep my silver at bay.
How I Did It
I admit I took the easy way out.
Most would think that it would be easiest to simply let my gray grow out. But I withdrew the more sensible option and had my stylist strip the color out of my hair.
The Pros
- One pro of stripping the color is that there is no “wait” period for growing out your gray. As much as I love to watch True Crime, I didn’t want to look like someone on the show who’s incarcerated and no longer has access to a stylist/salon.
- Not having to wait months for the gray to grow out was a huge pro for me! I know I would likely only last about a month past my normal color appointment and would’ve caved, scrambling to get into any stylist to have my hair colored.
The Cons
- It is not a healthy option for your hair.
- My hair ended up as a yellowish blonde color. The stylist informed me that although it wasn’t my desired color, I would have to wait a few months before adding in other tones because my hair needed to recover from its dramatic transformation.
A Slower Transition to Gray
If you’re not quite ready to make the full gray transition, you can start to color your hair lighter/blonde. My stylist suggested this option, adding in more blonde/platinum highlights which kept my gray more blended and concealed.
I did this for over a year, which was a good segway to transitioning into gray.
Embrace Your Gray Hair
I am now truly embracing the new look and color of my hair.
And I have enjoyed being able to use different semi-permanent hair colors in silver and platinum. Silver blue and rose gold are also on my list of colors to try! The color stays in for a few days before washing out, giving me a quick new and fun look!
Gray means without color. But think of the extra “green” that you’ll have in your wallet if you embrace your natural hair color!